Being A Dad

Now for those of us that have had kids through out our lives from the very first day there is an art of being a good dad or a parent, which requires being a teacher, friend, showing love, setting boundaries, a good model, all ways being present for them, teach life skills, being able to encourage them, and so many more little things in being a good dad.

I brought up two kids mostly on my own, i often ask myself was i a good dad, now my kids are adults and going really well in life, my son is just going leapes and bounds with the choices and his abilty to work hard has really set his life up, my daughter is different but really good at being a mum with her two kids, and I know that as they live with me and i see it first hand.

Just recently my daughter has seperated and a nasty one at that, not good for her and the kids, it was sad to be a part of it and witness how low a man can scrap,his abuse to the older boy and my little grandaughter is something i won't forget in a hurry, it was that bad his doing time for domestic violence.

I often think about it my daughter and the kids didn't deserve the abuse they recieved at all, the part thats not understanding it's still happening even in side he is letting them know how his going to fuck up their lives when he gets out. This is a dad that would rather make the kids and their mother's life miserable and suffer in so many ways. It's that bad we are looking at shifting out of the city, my dayghter has changed her maiden name back before she married, we have changed phone numbers, postal box with looking at other opptions to keep him away from the family.

To me your kids are your life seriously from the day they are born even as adults they are special and time is not around for ever, we don't know what's going to happen day by day. For the dads and even some mother's that feel beeing a fucking evil person at your kids is a good thing, I just dont understand it at all as they are a massive part of your life, and the grandkids wow there special, am I man that is perpared to go to another level in protecting my family, there is thing you dont hurt or fuck around a mans daughter, a father really protects his son but his daughter another level of protection especially when they are so close.

We brace for what's in front of us in a few month's with the needs of setting up different structures to keep him away as much as we can. But we are keeping the kids and the house at a great level of happiness and it's so good to be a part of this feeling in a well balanced atmosphere, credit to mum and the kids on their outlook.

Life is learning every day the good the bad, the happiness, the sadness, and the evil, for what ever it brings it's another experience, another learning point, and one that does create a challenge but it's one that with hard work and the right choices, with decsions made in life it will change for the better for mum and the kids..

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